by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Us parents, we worry about our kids. It’s part of our job description. A little bit of anxiety is a good thing; it focuses our attention, helps us prioritize, and improves our performance. But a lot of worry is not useful, especially when it oozes out during a...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, research
I am naturally a worrier. I worry about parenting…. Are my kids are going to turn out okay? Will they do okay in school? Am I doing enough for them? Did they eat enough? Are they getting enough sleep? And I worry about everything else… Are the plants doing okay? Are...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Recently I got a question from a mom…. “I want some ideas on coaching my son with friendships… Sometimes he gets left out and then he gives up.” No one wants to be left out! So… How can we help kids get included in play and build resilience? In the video I share with...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | compassion, parenting
Does your child ever judge herself harshly? Maybe you’ve seen your child make a mistake–like forget her homework, break something accidentally, or oversleep–and then you could tell she was mentally beating herself up for it. Maybe she even said, “I’m so stupid. I’m...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting
As I write this, I’m sitting at the dining room table with the cat on my lap, drinking some coffee. It’s raining lightly outside (Of course! It’s Oregon!). There are signs of spring everywhere. The plum tree outside the window is full of white blossoms. Yellow and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | empathy, parenting, tools
If you’re like me, when you’re in a “good place” you just don’t get triggered easily. As humans, if we’re not stressed or tired, things just don’t bother us that much. You can probably tolerate just about anything when you’ve had a full night of sleep, eaten, and...read more
