by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
I knew early on with our kids, that I didn’t want to rely on punishments and rewards. But this created a problem in my parenting. Knowing what you DON’T want to do is NOT the same as knowing what TO do. I still had to learn–or relearn–how to remove the threats and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
I’m writing this in the middle of the night. I woke up because I was worried. I'm going to go back to bed soon but before I do I wanted to share with you the technique I used to take care of my anxiety. It’s called Cognitive Reframing. It’s the same thing that I’ve...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | COVID-19, parenting, screen time, tools
If your child’s emotions and behaviors are more intense during sheltering-in-place than they are normally. You are not alone. We have so much gratitude for medical workers right now. And we think that parents are also on the “front lines” in a way. Even though it’s...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Us parents, we worry about our kids. It’s part of our job description. A little bit of anxiety is a good thing; it focuses our attention, helps us prioritize, and improves our performance. But a lot of worry is not useful, especially when it oozes out during a...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Recently I got a question from a mom…. “I want some ideas on coaching my son with friendships… Sometimes he gets left out and then he gives up.” No one wants to be left out! So… How can we help kids get included in play and build resilience? In the video I share with...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | empathy, parenting, tools
If you’re like me, when you’re in a “good place” you just don’t get triggered easily. As humans, if we’re not stressed or tired, things just don’t bother us that much. You can probably tolerate just about anything when you’ve had a full night of sleep, eaten, and...read more
