Welcome! You’ve come to the right place if you want to create a strong, loving relationship with your kids. You don’t have time to read all the books about brain science, child development and psychology. You’ve heard that studies show punishments and rewards are not effective in the long term. You feel lost when your kids melt down or when they don’t “play nicely”

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.

~ Albert Einstein

From The Blog

Research says, just be “good enough” parents

I am naturally a worrier. I worry about parenting…. Are my kids are going to turn out okay? Will they do okay in school? Am I doing enough for them? Did they eat enough? Are they getting enough sleep? And I worry about everything else… Are the plants doing okay? Are...

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Teaching Kids Self-Compassion

Does your child ever judge herself harshly? Maybe you’ve seen your child make a mistake–like forget her homework, break something accidentally, or oversleep–and then you could tell she was mentally beating herself up for it. Maybe she even said, “I’m so stupid. I’m...

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Bringing Fun Back Into Family

As I write this, I’m sitting at the dining room table with the cat on my lap, drinking some coffee. It’s raining lightly outside (Of course! It’s Oregon!). There are signs of spring everywhere. The plum tree outside the window is full of white blossoms. Yellow and...

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Triggered? Recover in 30 seconds by doing this

If you’re like me, when you’re in a “good place” you just don’t get triggered easily. As humans, if we’re not stressed or tired, things just don’t bother us that much. You can probably tolerate just about anything when you’ve had a full night of sleep, eaten, and...

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Next time you’re triggered, ask yourself this

Once a year I spend a weekend with a bunch of my mom friends on the coast. We talk, walk, eat, play games, sit in the hot tub, watch movies, stay up late, and sleep in. Last mom’s weekend, we started talking about things (and people) that “trigger” us. But the...

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