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Our best advice when it’s tough with kids:breathe, laugh, dance, sing, hug, call a friend. Be gentle with yourself, you’re not done growing up yet. This won’t last and you are not alone.
The Secret Sauce of Parenting
A lot of us feel alone, as parents. It’s not easy for you or your kids… However, there are many things that bring me hope. One of them is my mom’s amazing homemade BBQ sauce. We all called it “secret sauce”. I wanted to put secret sauce on everything… ice cream,...
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How Kids Learn To Speak For Themselves
A few days ago, I was sitting next to our daughter at the DMV (Dept. of Motor Vehicles). She leaned over and said to me, “Mom, we should just go and talk to them.” I said, “No, people are scary. Let’s wait until our number is called.” She pointed to the counter said,...
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A Simple Exercise to Strengthen Relationships
It’s Cecilia here. This might come to you as a surprise… Jason and I have to work at our relationship quite a bit. We’ve gone to classes, read books, done workshops and retreats together, and go to therapy. When we are together and it’s going well, our relationship is...
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How to stop yelling
Hands down, I think the most difficult part of parenting is to shift from an automatic response–yelling, time-out, or punishment–to a thoughtful response. We talked with Dr. Lynyetta Willis about how to transform our triggers recently. If you want to hear the first...
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3 Things To Do When Your Kids Trigger You
No matter how old your kids are you’re going to have feelings about them and their behaviors (unless you’re a Zen master!). Here’s what is happening at our house right now… Our oldest daughter is learning how to drive… which brings up all sorts of feelings for Jason...
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What to do when a child name calls, hits or kicks
During a recent Q & A call, Natalia described a situation with her son… “At school, some kids hurt him accidentally, then he called them names. I’ve already tried telling him to ignore the situation, use breathing, or use his sensory box to calm down. After he...
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How to comfort a child when you are maxed out
During a Q and A call recently a mom–of a 3 and a 1-year-old–asked us a question… She said… “I get so mad at my daughter. I know she’s just being a 3-year-old kid but I can’t stop myself and when I reprimand her I sound like my mother. Today my daughter was crying,...
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How to stop worrying about your child’s behavior, in 30 seconds
Us parents, we worry about our kids. It’s part of our job description. A little bit of anxiety is a good thing; it focuses our attention, helps us prioritize, and improves our performance. But a lot of worry is not useful, especially when it oozes out during a...
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Research says, just be “good enough” parents
I am naturally a worrier. I worry about parenting…. Are my kids are going to turn out okay? Will they do okay in school? Am I doing enough for them? Did they eat enough? Are they getting enough sleep? And I worry about everything else… Are the plants doing okay? Are...
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