by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, siblings
We received a question from a family whose son and daughter have gotten along well for years… but now they don’t. The daughter (12 years old) wants to hang out with her friends and is being “mean” to her brother, and the son (9 years old) is responding by being...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, tools
We’ve been exploring what to do with challenging behavior on the blog during the past few weeks. One mom wrote something to us that touched my heart–because I so clearly remember those days of caring for two little ones at the same time. This is what she said… I...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, tools
In an earlier post, we shared 5 reflection questions to use when your child has challenging behavior. A parent answered these questions with her 15-year-old daughter in mind. What is your child doing? Teen (15) staying up all night and sleeping all day. Says I'm...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, tools
When our first child was born, I went to visit a friend who is a mom of 11 kids. My friend gazed down at our cute little redheaded baby and said something about how nice that age is, before your kids can do things you don’t want them to do. At the time, I naively...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting
It’s Cecilia here. This might come to you as a surprise… Jason and I have to work at our relationship quite a bit. We’ve gone to classes, read books, done workshops and retreats together, and go to therapy. When we are together and it’s going well, our relationship is...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting
Hands down, I think the most difficult part of parenting is to shift from an automatic response–yelling, time-out, or punishment–to a thoughtful response. We talked with Dr. Lynyetta Willis about how to transform our triggers recently. If you want to hear the first...read more