by Cecilia Hilkey | empathy, parenting, tools
If you’re like me, when you’re in a “good place” you just don’t get triggered easily. As humans, if we’re not stressed or tired, things just don’t bother us that much. You can probably tolerate just about anything when you’ve had a full night of sleep, eaten, and...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
Once a year I spend a weekend with a bunch of my mom friends on the coast. We talk, walk, eat, play games, sit in the hot tub, watch movies, stay up late, and sleep in. Last mom’s weekend, we started talking about things (and people) that “trigger” us. But the...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, professionals, tools
Have you ever had an argument with a spouse or partner that goes like this: The argument gets more and more heated until you start talking about feelings, and then it all changes from clenched jaws to peace and tenderness? It’s pretty amazing that when we talk about...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | parenting, tools
No parent wants to yell at their kids. Yet, we yell when we get to the end of our rope, we feel like we have no more choices, and we see our child as the enemy. But how do we stop yelling at our kids? Last week, we were honored to talk with Dr. Laura Markham about...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, tools
Last time on the blog, we talked about what you can do to help kids reconnect after a blow-up… without forcing them to apologize to each other. You got 6-steps and mini-scripts for how to calm everyone down, help kids understand each other’s perspective, and come up...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, tools
As a parent, what do you want your kids to do after they fight? Most of us want them to reconnect with each other and apologize, right? But… What if they don’t want to apologize? Do you make them say “sorry” even if they don’t mean it? If they still feel mad, do you...read more