In our family, I have a tendency to want to “fix” things.
I’m a doer, a peacemaker, a nurturer, and sometimes I just can help myself.
If someone is upset, I want to help them calm down.
If there is an argument, I want to find a solution.
If someone is worried, I want to reassure them.
My tendency to problem-solve–while useful in many situations–is not always helpful…
Especially when our kids aren’t ready for a conversation.
We asked Janine Halloran, author of Coping Skills for Teens, what to do when teens aren’t ready to talk.
She shared what to do when the timing isn’t right for a conversation.
She told us how she helps her teen clients develop coping skills (which can help get them ready for a conversation!).
Janine reminded me that teens need downtime. Among other things, downtime is a chance for teens to explore different activities, and possibly try out new coping strategies.
And she stressed how much teens really DO value their parents… even if they don’t always show it.
If you’re looking for tips on what to do when your teens don’t want to talk, and how to help them develop coping strategies don’t miss this powerful and entertaining video with Janine.
And if you’re looking for a book about how to help teens with their feelings, Janine’s book–Coping Skills for Teens–is pure gold.
Rather than getting me more anxious about “fixing” things, Coping Skills for Teens, helped me to see that my kids actually do have a lot of coping skills, it helped me value their downtime (and my own), and it reminded me that I don’t need to fix everything all the time.
I can just be. 😀
And so can they.
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