by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, research
“Time outs” have been popular with parents for generations. Talking about the drawbacks of time outs is controversial. You may disagree with us; you may agree with us. But chances are you will not be neutral on this “hot” topic. Here’s a situation… The baby knocks...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict
We got an email recently from a parent basically asking – How do you ask a young child to do something without a struggle? Hi, Cecilia and Jason, I love the positivity of your parenting advice. I feel at a loss at how to deal with my three year old. I have...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | collaboration, conflict
We received this email recently as part of our “Ask Us Anything” Series: Dear Cecilia and Jason, My six-year-old girl has been very stressed about getting dressed in the morning. She has a lot of clothes and she choses outfits by herself. She often says she doesn't...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, empathy
Hello there, In a parenting workshop that we gave last week at a local charter school we were giving our usual talk about the importance of identifying a child’s need (and our own need). A dad raised his hand and asked, “How do you distinguish between needs and wants?...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, sleep
Hello there! We’re going to keep this one short and sweet. We had a rough evening. Everyone was tired, grumpy, hungry, and irritable (except Cecilia, because she is always “peaches and cream”). Dishes clashed, voices got louder, and maybe a door slammed. Then, after...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, research
Jason and I are both big fans of the 80/20 Principle, especially as it relates to parenting. (We’ll explain the parenting part in a bit, hang tight.) The 80/20 Principle was discovered by Italian Economist Vilfredo Pareto in the early 1900s when he realized that 80%...read more
