by Cecilia Hilkey | communication, conflict
Lots of times children will spontaneously apologize–without being asked to. They know that they hurt someone, and saying, “I’m sorry” is the polite thing to do, so they say it. Happy ending! But what if a child doesn’t say, “I’m sorry” when you think he should?...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, research
“Time outs” have been popular with parents for generations. Talking about the drawbacks of time outs is controversial. You may disagree with us; you may agree with us. But chances are you will not be neutral on this “hot” topic. Here’s a situation… The baby knocks...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict
We got an email recently from a parent basically asking – How do you ask a young child to do something without a struggle? Hi, Cecilia and Jason, I love the positivity of your parenting advice. I feel at a loss at how to deal with my three year old. I have...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | collaboration, conflict
We received this email recently as part of our “Ask Us Anything” Series: Dear Cecilia and Jason, My six-year-old girl has been very stressed about getting dressed in the morning. She has a lot of clothes and she choses outfits by herself. She often says she doesn't...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, empathy
Hello there, In a parenting workshop that we gave last week at a local charter school we were giving our usual talk about the importance of identifying a child’s need (and our own need). A dad raised his hand and asked, “How do you distinguish between needs and wants?...read more
by Cecilia Hilkey | conflict, parenting, sleep
Hello there! We’re going to keep this one short and sweet. We had a rough evening. Everyone was tired, grumpy, hungry, and irritable (except Cecilia, because she is always “peaches and cream”). Dishes clashed, voices got louder, and maybe a door slammed. Then, after...read more
