A friend of mine shared some interesting research…
People who KNOW they will experience a painful electric shock have less anxiety and distress than those who are told they have a 50% chance of experiencing one.
Or said in another way, humans would rather experience pain than uncertainty.
This research explains why the past few months have been so difficult for many of us.
This has not been the Spring or the Summer any of us expected to have. Maybe your feelings have been a rollercoaster. I’ve had moments of gratitude, hope, and warmth, and moments of anger, irritation, and hopelessness.
Maybe you’ve had wonderful family moments–playing games, walks, time together–but also more arguing and stress.
Underneath a lot of my feelings is anxiety.
Even if you’re not worried about where your next meal is coming from, or where your kids are going to school in the Fall, you may feel quite anxious right now.
I hear you.
So many of the things that we do to calm ourselves are not available or are different right now (it’s just not the same thing to go with our family to a restaurant in facemasks…). So many of the things our SOCIETY uses to calm and connect are just not available right now…
Feelings are contagious and affect the people around us, especially our family and those closest to us.
As a society, we’re all experiencing the collective impact of months of anxiety and unknowns about the future…
All the moms, dads, kids, grandmas, and grandpas are feeling worried, but without the hugs, smiles, activities, singing, and celebrations that we’re used to, to help us cope.
If you can relate to this, then you don’t want to miss this video.
Dr. Dan Peters is a psychologist and author of 2 books about worry.
He talks about how anxiety is a normal survival response, he explains why we get headaches and stomachaches when we’re worried, and he shares what we can to do feel better.