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5-Minutes to a Calm Family

5-Minutes to a Calm Family

A couple of weeks ago we talked about what to do, in addition to empathy, to create calm and peace in your family, when yelling or fighting is happening, and how to create your own personalized “calming plan”. Jason and I made a downloadable list of all of the things...

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Upset + upset = upset!

Upset + upset = upset!

Ok, I know that the following formula doesn’t follow the rules of mathematics. (This could really bother Jason who actually has a degree in Math.) However, isn’t the following formula an illustration of what happens in families? Kids upset + parent upset = recipe for...

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Kids saying “I don’t like you.”

Kids saying “I don’t like you.”

First, let me say you made our week last week. We got so many comments and Facebook shares about our “Worst. Morning. Ever.” blog post that our hearts were filled up with love and appreciation for you (even Jason, who lost the debate). Thank you for making that happen...

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Worst. Morning. Ever.

Worst. Morning. Ever.

My youngest (age 9) and I had a tough morning getting out the door to get to school. She and I decided it was the “worst morning ever”. It was no fun. She didn’t get out of bed for 45 minutes, she had to get ready in 5 minutes, she didn’t get the shower that she needs...

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What happens when parents disagree

What happens when parents disagree

Hello there! Jason and I are NOT perfect in at least a few ways. First of all, we thought we'd have this video out to you two weeks ago, but it didn't happen. Secondly, when you watch this 5 minute video you'll see that Jason and I DON'T have a perfect...

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re: How to say “no”

re: How to say “no”

We got this question in a recent email from Stacey: "I feel like I'm always saying ‘Don't’ and ‘No’ many times a day. I say, ‘No, don't touch that,’ and ‘No, you can't have that,’ all day long. Do you have any ideas for saying ‘Yes’ more?" Stacey, This is something...

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Want less fighting?

Want less fighting?

Yes! We all want more harmony in our life and in our family. Join us this week for a FREE parenting class from the comfort of your home called – Compassionate Conflict Resolution We were overwhelmed with the responses from our survey last week. Thank you to all who...

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The Wrong Way to Express Empathy

The Wrong Way to Express Empathy

Lots of parents want to show their kids empathy, but what’s the best way to do that? How do we really let our kids know “I understand how you feel” and give our kids the experience of us parents, really “getting” them? We are going to propose something that may be a...

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What Elite Athletes And Parents Have In Common

What Elite Athletes And Parents Have In Common

Jason’s been reading The New Toughness Training for Sports by James Loehr. You might think a book about “toughness” is about how athletes tolerate more pain and discomfort during training or competing. But it’s not, toughness is about athletes performing their best...

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