Welcome! You’ve come to the right place if you want to create a strong, loving relationship with your kids. You don’t have time to read all the books about brain science, child development and psychology. You’ve heard that studies show punishments and rewards are not effective in the long term. You feel lost when your kids melt down or when they don’t “play nicely”

Peace cannot be kept by force; it can only be achieved by understanding.

~ Albert Einstein

From The Blog

Should you pay kids an allowance for chores?

We like it when kids–especially our own–do chores around the house. One of our daughters is a master at cleaning the bathroom. The other one takes out the recycling, the trash, and does all the cat care. They both help with the dishes and setting the...

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When Your Child is Angry: What to Do

During a family car ride once when I was little, I got really mad at my big brother. I remember wanting to punch him! I didn’t hit him, but when we were close to home, we pulled into the driveway. I jumped out and, instead of taking my anger out on someone else, I...

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Parents Make Mistakes Too – How to Apologize

When I was a kid occasionally my dad would lose his temper. I’m sure he had a decent reason for feeling upset, a long day of work plus maybe I was roller skating through the house, making a lot of noise, or fighting with my brother or sister. I remember seeing his...

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Secrets to Taming Tantrums, Part 2

You might say it’s a child having… A tantrum A melt down Big feelings Getting to the end of their rope Flipping their lid. Whatever you call it, we’ve all experienced it. Every parent struggles, at one point or another, with helping their child through an upset. For...

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Secrets to Taming Tantrums, Part 1

No matter how old your kids are… 2, 12, or 22 years old, at some point they’ve been overcome with emotions. Even us, mature adults have “grown up tantrums” occasionally. We might call it road rage, over-eating, over-drinking, over-shopping, yelling, door slamming, or...

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